What I learned about relationships by watching The Bachelor.....

Last night was the season finale of one of my sick tv obsessions. Usually I can tell who the bachelor is going to pick by the 2nd to last episode because he starts pulling away from the other chick and latching onto the other one (sound familiar?)

Brad, the notorious bachelor for picking no one a few years back came back to fall in love with sweet southern belle emily. I had been watching the season religiously this year with a good childhood friend of mine and the two of us kind of joked about her barbie-esque facade, but in the end i was won over by emily. It wasn't because she was nice and soft-spoken or because she's a single mom with a heartbreaking past.

While watching the proposal last night, and seeing the two of them tear up, i realized that she is the yin to his yang. She is calm where he is emotional.

I have lamented in the past over my teenage idea that when two people are in love, they stay together forever. I have learned this is obviously not true. I hate to admit it but i think the bachelor taught me a lesson on balance.

I think that things with me and X were so terrible because we were too much alike. There was never any balance. It was either high highs or low lows. That's great for a minute, i guess.....

Reflecting further on this, i think every healthy functioning relationship i know of have some balance. So the moral of the story is that if you're a hot mess like me, someone with a little bit of stability might be the right one.

That, and, relationships are harder to deal with when you're not on a tropical beach sipping cocktails all day.