I have a friend from school who had a relationship very similarly to mine when we were in college. we were trying to deal with our crappy situations the best we could, and would talk to each other frequently about them.

i talked to her last night and she told me something amazing. apparently, her selfish ex kept trying to contact her after she told him she needed space after their breakup, and finally a few days ago, he talked to her. apparently he said he wanted to hear how she was because he cares about her so much. she didn't take the bait. instead she told me she said her life was wonderful, and there was absolutely no room in it for him and promptly hung up.

It's really hard to break the ties to someone who you think you love, even if they act like an asshole. even if you break up, you may be talking all the time, and that is the scenario that i have found myself in until recently. i finally made the decision to break my ties. I know it's not going to be easy, but if i look in the mirror and am really true to myself, it's something i just need to do.

sometimes the hardest thing to do is to stand your ground.